If you don’t have trust in a relationship, what do you really have? Are you constantly looking over your shoulder making sure you’re mate isn’t cheating on you? Are you frustrated by your partner and wish you could just trust them?
These are all signs pointing to what many experts believe is a bigger problem in the relationship than just trusting your partner. For me, it all started when I met the love of my life. Though it was a short relationship, there is no doubt that I fell madly in love, for the first time in my life. I had decades of dating experience and always fell into the same trap, I never trusted anyone. Until I met my true love.
It came easy, trusting him. It wasn’t that he was some superior person or even a person of moral character. He didn’t say the right things that made me trust him. It wasn’t like he never looked or talked about another female. In fact, when he did look at another female, it never bothered me. Further, he was sometimes a bit of a flirt, which again didn’t bother me for a second. In fact, I loved that other women seemed to like him. It seemed as though other women were drawn to him as well and this did not bother me either.
The thing is, if you don’t trust your mate and you have trust issues in a relationship, it’s more than likely you aren’t truly in love with them. In the Bible is clearly states that love is not many things and one of them is that love is not jealous. I never understood that until I actually fell in love.
Clearly, many people will disagree with me. They’ll say that they are in love but there’s just something they said or did that led them to not trust them. The thing is, I’ve had people fall in love with me and I did something that broke their trust. However, they didn’t leave me and they still trusted me despite my indiscretion.
Is that true love when trust is broken in a relationship and yet you’re still in love with them? Yes, I think so. When you’re not in love, subconsciously you look for reasons to get out. Anything that comes along, somewhere deep down inside, you want out of the relationship. If this is the case with you, and you don’t trust your mate, could it be that maybe you’re not really in love with them?