So we’ve all heard the tales before, girl meets guy, they fall in love, they get married, get a house, have kids and everyone’s happy.  Well some of them.  What about you?  Are you looking for love?  How about true love?

There are several ways to find the man of your dreams, snag him and keep him life!  But, there’s only one way to be happy and that’s to find your true SOULMATE.  Someone who will absolutely fall in love with you when no one else has or will.  Given up on finding your man?  Keep reading because we’re going to tell you what you need to do now, before he settles for someone less than you!!  And this person will be less because YOU are HIS perfect mate!!

Guy Talk:

Believe it or not, all men want to find their soul mate.  We’re made up the same way as women when it comes to WANTING to find love.

Where are we looking for love?

Top Ten Best Places to Meet Men:

1.  Sports/Social Groups – Doing things you LOVE is the BEST and easiest way you’ll find the man of YOUR dreams.  Some people (and even dating websites) CLAIM that it’s not important if you find a partner who shares common interests with you.  They say that if you both like to play tennis that it doesn’t matter.  True, this isn’t everything but it’s a start.  When you share your life with someone, it’s much easier and FUN when you enjoy doing similar things together.  This doesn’t mean that you have to do absolutely everything together (although lots of men like doing everything with their partner, myself included) but it’s nice to have a few things in common.

For example, I am a homebody (for the most part) and I want my partner to also enjoy activities at home.  I don’t want my mate out with her girlfriends til 1:00 a.m., I want her in bed with me.  It’s the truth!  Also, I’d rather be home at night and the weekends watching movies, playing games, doing projects around the house and hanging out just the 2 of us.  If you on the other hand, hate being at home, we’d make a horrible match.  You would be out, I would hate it and in the end it would tear us apart.  Really the only place I want to be going on the weekends is to movies just the 2 of us and to church.  This also brings me to my second best place to meet the man of your dreams.

You can go to meetup.com now to find an activity or social group that fits what you love doing most.  If you can’t find one, you can create a group!

2.  Church – Believe it or not, when it comes to finding love, we want a good girl on our arm and a tiger in the bedroom (sorry but that’s reality).  If you come across as a “tiger” on a first date, this is a major turn off to most guys.

Most guys don’t want to date a girl who’s slept with a hundred other men.  GROSS!  So, keep us thinking that you’re a good girl!  Going to church is a great way to come across as this said “good girl” and you’ll meet us there!  Also, joining a CLASS greatly improves your chances of meeting your man there as well.  Joining the choir or band can also help as we also look for mates there.  Many of my friends met through church and it seems these relationships last the longest and appear to be the healthiest.

3.  Gym – Ladies, if you want a “buff” man, where OF COURSE are you going to go?  The gym, it’s a given.  We are there working out but us single men are also looking for a mate.  Sure, some guys are there looking for one thing but even these guys can be turned around given they meet the right woman.  I’ll go into that later, what it means to be the “right” woman.

4.  Friends – This is one of the best ways to meet men, through other friends.  Ladies, if you go out on a date a meet a man who you don’t like but he likes you, turn this relationship into a friendship.  This is the best kind of guy friend you can have because he already likes you and will want to hang out with you, even if it’s just friends.  Well usually, that’s not always the case but in most circumstances he’ll want to hang out as friends and “think” there’s a possibility it will turn into something more.  As you become friends with this man, he will introduce you to his friends/neighbors/relatives thereby increasing your chances of meeting the one man.  Which is better, hanging out with your new male friend and getting your face out there in public or sitting at home by yourself?  You’re always, always better off leaving the comfort of your home and going out in public meeting other people.

5.  Coffee Shop – Okay so this a cliché place to meet people but it absolutely works.  When you have nothing else to do on a Saturday morning, a coffee shop is one of the best places to meet men.  It’s great for YOU because typically the non-party type guy doesn’t hang out at coffee shops early in the morning.  These types of men are still sleeping and probably recovering from their last hangover.  You want to go early in the morning like between 8 and 10:30 a.m. is best.  You also want to make sure you have your game face on.  I’ll go into how to get a man’s attention in the following chapters.

6.  Meet Men Online – So many people have met their mate online and gotten married.  The reason this WORKS is because it’s so convenient.  You don’t have to know all the little ways to get a guy’s attention, you already have it.  However, you’ll want to know the best way to present your profile to a man so he’ll respond to your profile.  I’ll also cover that in the upcoming chapters.

7.  Part Time Job – Now you may look right past this option but think about it, what better way to PUT YOURSELF out there than by working some retail or waitressing job?  I can’t tell you how many people I met when I was a waiter.  It’s unbelievable the amount of people you meet and you don’t even have to be that good looking.  I remember falling for someone who was beyond nice to me when I was having the worst day possible.  I went back just to talk to them because they made me feel better and we ended up dating.  You never know who you’re going to meet in retail, waiting tables or some other public job so it’s worth it to put yourself out there.  PLUS, you’ll be making money!!  It’s a win win situation.

8.  Volunteer – Again, many people may look past this option but think about how many people you would come into contact with while volunteering?  The answer is TONS plus you will feel SO good about yourself.  People who volunteer are known to be better mates, more understanding, better listeners and obviously more giving.  These are all qualities you look for and what better place to find these qualities then in someone else who’s volunteering.  You can find great volunteer opportunities by going to volunteermatch.org

9.  Grocery Store – Imagine, you’re walking through the isles looking for another frozen dinner when you find yourself walking towards the man of your dreams.  What do you do?  I’ll tell you exactly what you need to do and NOT do in the upcoming chapters.  The first thing you need to do is make sure you’re going at the same time other single men.  Don’t go super early in the morning as men tend not to shop in the wee morning hours.  Instead, shop during store hours that you think are going to be the most busy.  Also, shopping on Sunday is an altogether bad idea.  Most men are into sports and the last thing they want to be doing is shopping when their favorite football or baseball game is on.

10.  Take A Class – Now if you’ve already completed tons of schooling, maybe the last thing you want to do is sit through a class HOWEVER, taking just ONE 8 week class can change your entire life.  For instance, I know someone who met the man of her dreams while taking a photography class.  He was the teacher and she was the student amongst about 15 other women.  He fancied her the moment he saw her but she NEVER would have met him had she been afraid to take a class.  They’re the happiest couple I know.

There are plenty of reasons why relationships fail, but today we’re going to talk about the top reasons why some work and others are doomed from the start.

1.  Trust – Lack of trust in a relationship is one of the biggest killers and reasons why relationships fail.  This also tops the list as reasons marriages fail as well.  If you once trusted the person you’re with and they do something to lose that trust, you’re liable to have a very rocky relationship moving forward.  It’s important to tackle any trust problems head on as soon as they happen as if you let trust issues stew, it will only make matters worse.

2. Communication Problems – Another one of the top reasons relationships fail is from lack of communication in relationships or poor communication.  Many people complain that they just don’t have anything to talk to their mate about anymore.  The major complaints are just that, that they’re always complaining and this drives their conversations.  Instead of focusing on the negative all the time, maybe it’s time to change your thoughts to more of a positive nature.  This will definitely change the words that come out of your mouth and will help with communication.  If you don’t have common ground or nothing to talk about, read on.

3. Throwing Up Everything About You – You can’t possibly tell the person you love absolutely everything about you in one lifetime.  Telling someone absolutely everything can lead to unhealthy relationships.  There are many details of you and that’s the beauty of you.  You want to keep your entire being somewhat of a mystery.  If and when your partner thinks they “know” everything about you, that’s when the mystery stops and judgement steps in.  If you try to throw up everything single account of you and give up too much information to your mate, your relationship may not work.  Just remember, keep a little mystery and know your boundaries.

4.  Nothing in Common – While having everything in common and nothing to separate you and your partner can be extremely boring, the opposite is true as well only it will create an unhappy relationship.  You want to have something in common with your partner so you can have some kind of common ground.  By this I don’t mean that you both like chocolate and there’s your common ground.  You need something more concrete to have in common with your mate like the fact that you both absolutely love sports.  It gives you something to talk about, look forward to, and you can also enjoy your fun time watching or doing the one thing you have in common.

5.  Attraction – Many people ask why do relationships fail and sometimes it has solely to do with attraction.  Some people are attracted to bizarre things.  For example, my friend loves big bellies.  If the person they’re dating has a completely toned belly, it’s a turnoff for them.  This can seem bizarre to some.  Attraction is different for everyone.  If you’re not attracted to your mate or vice versa, maybe you should find out what drives them wild and try changing looks.  Sex is important in a relationship and the stronger your ties are in bed, the stronger your relationship will be overall.  If you’re having problems in bed, maybe it’s time for a change either in you or your partner.  Sometimes trying something completely different with your partner can spice things up and completely change your relationship for the better.

If your partner displays any of the following during your relationship, consider the reasons why there’s lack of trust in a relationship with this person.  Here are some signs of cheating and why you might be questioning the faithfulness in your relationship.

1. Being Late – Trust in relationships is one of the most important aspects in a relationship.  If your partner is constantly coming home late, this should be a huge red flag.  If they exert this behavior and some of the following below, should you have an amazing trust relationship with them or should you be concerned?

2. Avoiding Calls – If you see your partner avoiding to take calls in front of you or leaves the room after taking a call, this is a red flag and could be a reason why you’re having trust issues in your relationship.

3. Office Parties – Affairs at office parties are one of the biggest places where people cheat.  Rightly so.  If your partner is regularly away on business, this is an opportune time for them to cheat and could be your number one reason why you have no trust in a relationship with them.

4. Talk – Watch what your partner says, especially about the opposite sex.  If they’re talking about another co-worker often, this could be a sign that they’re secretly attracted to them.

5. No Initiation – If your partner isn’t initiating or doesn’t sex with you, this should be a red flag, especially if your partner is a man.  You should be really concerned if your partner has cheated before with you and you’re working on building trust in a relationship with them.  If this has happened in the past with your relationship, it could happen again.

6. Past – If your partner has been unfaithful in the past, chances are they will be with you.  I had one man in my life who cheated on his wife and then the person he cheated with, if they were going through a rough time, they were back on the internet looking for someone new.  If this sounds like your partner, red flags should be popping up everywhere, this is not a good sign and maybe your trust issues in a relationship with this person are justified.

7. Character – Finally, it comes down to character.  Every person is different and people can be placed in situations where temptation runs high but yet they never cheat.  It comes down to whether or not your partner is a good person and has moral qualities that will stand the temptation test.  Point is, some people will never cheat and if your partner is a good moral person, chances are, they won’t cheat.  Sometimes you just know if they are or not.  Trust your intuition and decide if your lack of trust in a relationship is justified or not.

If you don’t have trust in a relationship, what do you really have?  Are you constantly looking over your shoulder making sure you’re mate isn’t cheating on you?  Are you frustrated by your partner and wish you could just trust them?

These are all signs pointing to what many experts believe is a bigger problem in the relationship than just trusting your partner.  For me, it all started when I met the love of my life.  Though it was a short relationship, there is no doubt that I fell madly in love, for the first time in my life.  I had decades of dating experience and always fell into the same trap, I never trusted anyone.  Until I met my true love.

It came easy, trusting him.  It wasn’t that he was some superior person or even a person of moral character.  He didn’t say the right things that made me trust him.  It wasn’t like he never looked or talked about another female.  In fact, when he did look at another female, it never bothered me.  Further, he was sometimes a bit of a flirt, which again didn’t bother me for a second.  In fact, I loved that other women seemed to like him.  It seemed as though other women were drawn to him as well and this did not bother me either.

The thing is, if you don’t trust your mate and you have trust issues in a relationship, it’s more than likely you aren’t truly in love with them.  In the Bible is clearly states that love is not many things and one of them is that love is not jealous.  I never understood that until I actually fell in love.

Clearly, many people will disagree with me.  They’ll say that they are in love but there’s just something they said or did that led them to not trust them.  The thing is, I’ve had people fall in love with me and I did something that broke their trust.  However, they didn’t leave me and they still trusted me despite my indiscretion.

Is that true love when trust is broken in a relationship and yet you’re still in love with them?  Yes, I think so.  When you’re not in love, subconsciously you look for reasons to get out.  Anything that comes along, somewhere deep down inside, you want out of the relationship.  If this is the case with you, and you don’t trust your mate, could it be that maybe you’re not really in love with them?

When someone cheats on you, it can literally seem like your heart just sank down into your stomach and that your entire insides have just been ripped out.  You can feel real physical pain after you find out you’ve been cheated on but what do you do afterwards?

Relationship Advice Cheating

People who’ve managed to go through life and never be cheated on are quite fortunate but they have no clue what a person goes through after they’ve been in a cheating relationship.

Most people will tell you to leave the person and in fact, almost every article you’ll read will tell you to move forward.  This one’s a little bit different.

The reality is, the real physical pain you’re feeling right now isn’t actually being caused because you feel betrayed.  This is what you think you’re upset about but the reality is the real emotions behind what happened are anger and unforgiveness.

Relationship Advice After Cheating

Let’s first start with anger.  This is a very human reaction when someone is betrayed but you don’t need to stay in this state of mind.  Staying angry will only make one person feel worse and that’s you and only you.  This the typical reaction for just about everyone on the planet but it doesn’t have to be your reaction.

Instead of feeling angry and venting to everyone in the world about what you’re going through, you can try something entirely different.  I want to caution you though, it will change you, but for the better.  It might also change a few people around you who know what you’re going through.  We’ll get more into this in a minute.

The other thing you’re feeling is unforgiveness.  Face it, if you instantly forgave your partner for cheating, you wouldn’t be reading this article.  Honestly, that’s the first thing you should have done though is forgive them, instantly.  Further, saying it out loud to your partner probably would have caused them to faint and made them feel worse.  The fact that most people’s reaction is anger and unforgiveness only makes the cheating for the other person feel like it was somehow justified.  It makes them feel like deep down inside, maybe you deserved it.  I’m just saying what I’ve read time and time again!

Let’s say you already showed your partner that you’re angry and not forgiving them.  This can change.  What you need to do now is put a plan in motion of ways you’re going to forgive them, today, right now.

I can tell you that forgiving your partner and not being angry anymore will change your life, it will make you want to forgive anyone and everyone who does you wrong because it makes you feel so good.  You see, being angry and holding on to unforgiveness makes a person feel awful right?  It only makes you feel worse.  So, since that doesn’t work, try the opposite.  The opposite is so true, forgiving a person and being kind to them even though they did you wrong will ultimately make YOU feel better, amazing and way better than you can ever imagine.

Here are some ways on how to forgive a cheating boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband.  These are the ways other people have moved into the unbelievable realm of Forgiveness:

Forgiveness comes easy when you know that what people say or do is about them, it’s not about you. -Kim Kings

Shift the focus, feel the pain and think of the thousands of others in the world who are also feeling the same pain, then send a loving-kindness message to everyone to be relieved of this suffering. -Nick Ong

When it happens I often ask myself “What strengths must I develop further from this?” Often the feeling of resentment just goes away, slowly but surely, because I wasn’t focusing on the person that wronged me, but the lesson that the event was trying to tell me. -Natassia Callista Alicia

Write a brutally honest, emotionally raw letter telling them how much they have hurt and angered you, then tear it up and burn it. As you watch the smoke rise, think about the fact that you are not that hurt and that anger.

It is fleeting, just like everything else. As the smoke carrying your hurt and disappointment disappears into the air, you can let it go. -Renate Wuersig

How did I forgive when it was hard? I came to this realization: no one ever gets to the end of their life and thinks, “I wish I stayed angry longer.” They generally say one of three things: “I’m sorry,” “I forgive you,” or “I love you.”

After taking space to heal myself, I decided to cut out the middle man of time. I now set boundaries to take better care of me, but I’ll never regret that I’ve forgiven.

If none of the above helps you and doesn’t set you free, you need to find other articles or books on forgiveness.  You should do it today, tonight, right now.  Don’t let another minute of your life waste away with anger and unforgiveness.  Once you start practicing forgiveness, you’ll life will never be the same and you will feel elated.  Forgive your partner today and either move forward with them or move on.

Throughout most of my life, I’ve been going from one relationship to the next.  There were tons of rebound relationship signs along the way and what I was doing was rebounding from one relationship to the next.  In hindsight, I should have waited.  I should have waited for the right person to come along rather than return to an old relationship that I had already broken in the past.

So what are the signs of a rebound relationship?

The first is this, how long has it been since you were in your previous relationship?  One week, one month, hopefully it’s been longer than a day?  For me, it’s sounds funny but I can recall going from one relationship and ending it with someone only to rebound the very next day.  I know, that’s crazy but there are some people who would rather be in a bad relationship than be alone and I was definitely one of them.  Are you one of those people as well?  You can break this cycle but i’ll talk about that in future posts.

Rebound Love

The next sign that you’re in a rebound relationship is that you’re still thinking about your ex.  This is a serious sign because in order for any person to move forward and move on with someone else, you have to be over your past relationship.  The only way you can do this is through time and careful evaluation.  What are the reasons you or your ex ended the relationship?  Often after a break up, you only focus on the positive aspects of the relationship.  You recount every good time and for the most part, completely dismiss all the negative factors.  Every relationship has it’s good points and it’s bad but in order for you to move forward, you need to give both the good and bad aspects careful contemplation.

Rebound Love Relationships

Other signs of rebound relationship are that you still have pictures of you and your ex around the house.  If this is the case, it is way too early.  If you’re over your ex, you should remove any pictures of the two of you.  Why would you want to hold on to any memories if you’re completely over the person.  For me, I always toss out the old pictures.  Moving on is easy for me but being alone has always been hard, until I found out the way to do so which again, i’ll go into in later writings.

Getting into a new relationship before allowing yourself time to get over an old relationship is, for the most part, not a good idea.  Many people need someone new to get over their ex but in order to have a healthy relationship moving forward, you need to be completely over any past relationships.  Do yourself and anyone new that comes along a huge favor, before moving forward, make sure you’ve over your past.

It’s funny to me to be able to tell why relationships fail with other people but with myself, I’m unable to determine my lack of commitment with most of my suitors.  The reality is, it’s easy for many of us to determine why a relationship fails as an outsider because they’re looking at the relationship with no preconceived notions and no hidden agendas.  They’re looking a relationship with fresh eyes and able to hear both parties, evaluate why it isn’t working.

Reasons Relationships Fail

With many relationships, the strongest partner seems to be the woman.  Let’s face it, men have many issues.  Guys, come on your know you do!  It’s the woman who determines whether or not she wants to put up with these indiscretions and truly loves her mate.  If the woman isn’t as in love as she once thought, these little nuisances that seemed insignificant at one point, all of a sudden become the focal point and the reason why she wants to end the relationship.

When relationships fail, of course it can also be the result of actions coming from a woman.  I can tell you as a woman, the number one reason I’ve always chosen to end a relationship is because I simply wasn’t in love.  Further, looking back, I can’t understand the reasons why I stayed.  Sometimes, women fear being alone and this is often one of the reasons why women stay and seek relationship help rather than ending the relationship.

Just why do relationships fail?:

I’m often asked what life is like being a single person.  Throughout my life, I’ve had numerous relationships but can only count one as being with someone who I was head over heals in love with and that was well over a decade ago.  Since then, when being in a relationship, I soon discover that i’m better off being alone because the simple reality is, i’m happier when i’m just alone and dating a bunch of people.  This is the true reality for most who haven’t met someone who they’re head over heals in love with.  This is the reason why many relationships fail.  They think they’ll be happier on their own.

Relationships Advice

The simple reality and fact of life is this, if you’re not truly in love with someone, even the smallest thing can set you off and want you to escape back to your happy world.  Why be stuck in a relationship that makes you miserable and be with someone that you truly don’t love?  However, when you are in love with someone, no matter what they do, you’ll want to be with them and nothing can separate you.

That’s the one thing that’s eluded me all this time, finding that one guy who i’m madly in love with.  So, if that’s happened to you, where you’ve found that person who you love with all your heart, don’t let them go!

It can be very hard to develop trust in relationships, any relationship for that matter, when you’ve been severely hurt by a person, or multiple people.  Growing up and all throughout my life, it’s been the same story.  I hold a grudge towards anyone and everyone who’s done me wrong.  That all changed when I realized the damage it had done, holding on to to all that pain.

How to rebuild trust in a relationship

When I was first severely hurt by someone, my initial reaction was intense pain followed by a desire of retaliation.  As always, I held on to the pain and did not forgive the person.  That all changed when someone did something incredibly cruel and was intentionally trying to hurt me.  They succeeded and to be honest, I wanted to have a glass of some kind of alcohol to take away the pain. Drinking is not the answer, especially since I don’t drink anymore.  I needed another way to get rid of this pain.

I started doing research and came across something that stopped me in my tracks.  To make a very long story short, I found out that the anger and unforgiveness I was holding on to with many people, was turning me into a bitter person.  The short end of it, holding on the anger was only hurting me.  It wasn’t making me a better person.  It wasn’t helping any of my relationships.  It wasn’t making me feel better but worse.

The only way you can trust someone again and trust other people down the road is to forgive.  Think about everyone in your life, past and present, who’s done you wrong.  If you know that you haven’t forgiven someone, it’s time.

Restoring trust in a relationship

Forgiving someone after they’ve wronged you isn’t easy unless you know how to do it.  Then, after you forgive them, it is the best feeling in the world!!  It’s like nothing you can ever imagine.  It turns your hurting, your pain, your bitterness into a feeling of elation, joy, peace, happiness and you want to forgive everyone from that point on because it feels so good!

Trust issues in relationships starts with forgiveness.

The first thing you’re going to do to build trust in a relationship is forgive them and everyone.  We’ve got this covered.  Here’s how you do it:

1. Write a passionate and emotional letter to the person who wronged you.  Write down everything that’s in your head.  Now, take that piece of paper and burn it.  As you see the smoke clear, know that you are not your anger.  Know that the anger that was inside of you is now going up in smoke.

2. Imagine the person who wronged you is sitting in a chair in front of you.  Watch their lips and hear them telling you how sorry they are.  Next, close your eyes.  Imagine this scene again and replay it again in your head.

3. Imagine that the person who wronged you was Jesus.  Picture that He was the one who wronged you.  The savior who died on the cross and suffered for you, do you think you can forgive him?

4. Picture the person who wronged you when they were a child.  Now, picture them telling you that they’re sorry.  Can you forgive this child?

5. Whatever they did or said to you, know that it’s all about them, it’s not about you.

6. Know that thousands of other people in the world are feeling the same exact pain.  Send loving kindness to them.  You feel their pain and know what they’re going through.  Feel compassion and send love for them.

7.  Ask yourself, what strengths have I learned from this?

8.  Realize that no one has ever gotten to their death bed and asked “Why didn’t I hold on to that anger longer?”  Instead, people wish they would have forgiven more, cared more, loved more.

If you want to build love and trust in relationships, start by forgiving everyone who’s ever wronged you.  Do it today.  It only takes a few minutes but the results could change your life.

Christian Marriage Counseling

Many couples experiencing marital problems find successful marriage advice through Christian marriage counseling. Christian counseling is a great option and has helped many couples. So what is the correlation between God and relationships? Let’s explore this biblical counseling and why Christian advice has helped many couples. It may even help in saving your marriage.

Free Christian Marriage Counseling and The Church – Ever notice some of the best marriages are found in church?  A great free resource to all couples is going to a Sunday school class specifically for couples.  Many times, you’ll hear similar stories of what other couples have been through and how they made it through a particular tough time in their marriage.  This can be invaluable advice and it’s free.  You can also set up meetings with your pastor to talk about your relationship.  I sat behind a couple last week in church.  They were well into their 70s and still holding hands.  What were they doing as a couple?  Praising God – together.

When 2 people come together, there is God.  He sees everything we do and when a couple is seeking HIM, it brings them closer together.  I once heard that you should look at your relationship like a pyramid.  You both start at the bottom of the pyramid and as you seek God, and the closer you get to the top, the closer you become as a couple.  God is your best marriage counselor.  If you both seek Him, He will help save your marriage.

For hundreds of years, the Bible has completely changed relationships for many couples.  Reading the Bible is something so simple that many couples overlook.  Something happens to a person when they start reading the Bible.  Even more important, something happens to a relationship when a couple is reading the Bible together.  Matthew 18:20 reads: “When two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”  When 2 people are gathered together, there is GOD our creator.  That’s huge.  Who better to help heal your relationship that the one who created you?  If you want to know how to save your marriage, ask God and read the Bible for marriage advice.

Online Christian marriage counseling is a good option.  You can find several articles online that will incorporate questions for couples and help them understand each other in a more Godly fashion.  They key here is, look to see where the advice is coming from.  If it’s not from a Christian source, move on to the next article.  I believe seeking God together, going through Christian marriage counseling, reading your Bible, attending church, attending Sunday school, and talking to your Pastor are your best options and will greatly improve any relationship.

Many people today are struggling with communication in relationships.  Good communication in relationships happens sometimes instantly or it develops more over time.  As you get to know your partner or whomever, the better you’ll be able to open up to them and share your thoughts and ideas.  When you allow yourself to be vulnerable, this is when you feel more connected to a person and allow effective communication to just happen.

Lack of communication in relationships can be detrimental to any kind of relationship.  This includes friends, family, coworkers, bosses and your partner.  So how can you be a better communicator?  Several people who aren’t willing to talk and share their ideas are afraid of rejection.  This might be the case in your situation.  Another problem is, people aren’t willing to listen or they simply are so concentrated on what their response will be that they completely miss what the other person is saying.  Everyone has different communication styles but if you want to know how to improve communication, you need to become a better listener.  By listening more closely to what people are saying, your response will be more about the topic at hand and less about your particular circumstance.  Plus, by listening more intently you’ll really get to know the person and maybe hear some great stories or insightful advice.  People are interesting, start listening more if you want to have effective communication skills.

Healthy communication in relationships doesn’t mean you talk about all your problems and every single thought that comes to your mind.  There has to be boundaries in a relationship and some things are better left unsaid.  In order to carry on healthy communication in relationships, think before you speak.

Nonverbal communication in relationships is often overlooked.  What your body is saying is many times stronger than the words that are actually coming out of your mouth.  For example, if you’re sitting with your arms folded during any conversation, the person will be more closed off to you.  Women will often cross their arms in front of men they don’t like or feel comfortable with.  Also, many people will cross their arms as a sign of disagreement with whatever you’re talking about.  Crossing your arms is often seen as negative body language so unless you’re cold temperature wise, don’t come off as a cold fish.   Be open to people, listen and you’ll automatically form more relationships with better communication.